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  • Pain and Suffering

    The following post is disjointed and semi incoherent. I have left it as such on purpose. Incoherence and abrupt changes in the narrative when retelling a personal story is a sign of trauma. I have recently had multiple friends go through severely traumatic events. I have left my musings in a format that is I … Continue reading Pain and Suffering


  • Loneliness 1

    Loneliness. You are not alone in your loneliness. And yet you are alone. So very very alone. Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, TikTok, Twitter, Reddit, Discord and other social media platforms allow us share and speak with friends and strangers. Cell phones, Facetime, Skype, Zoom, Hangouts, and Facebook video calls allow us to see and talk to … Continue reading Loneliness 1


  • Processing vs Choosing

                  I enjoy figuring out the internal world of emotions, feelings, and how the past affects what we choose today. It is like a giant puzzle. I love reading books on how our brain is developed and how counseling brings coherence to our stories and changes how our brain functions. I am just about always … Continue reading Processing vs Choosing


  • To My Plant Friends

                  I love my plant friends. Walk into their house and there are plants. Everywhere. I am not a plant person. I am bad at taking care of plants. I just can’t keep them alive. I give them too much sun. Too much water. I am also bad at taking care of people.               Cameron … Continue reading To My Plant Friends


  • Tik-Tok, Tuesday, and Love

              I want a good marriage. But what does that mean?                We are inundated with movies, tv shows, and tabloids that emphasize a hot steamy romance. It is fairly common knowledge that the chemicals underlying the passionate love dissipate between the 6 month and 2 year mark. Most towards the shorter end of that … Continue reading Tik-Tok, Tuesday, and Love


  • Marriage is undefined, singles are lost, and pastors are the problem

    In my last post I critiqued a lack of creativity and definition of a good marriage. My concern in defining marriage well is for the purposes of dating. Dating for the Christian is a process aimed at marriage. Marriage needs a clear definition for the single person to pursue. Marriage and relationships are common issues … Continue reading Marriage is undefined, singles are lost, and pastors are the problem


  • Relationship Skills

    I had the opportunity to be friends with my ex, I’ll call Holly, and visit her over the weekend in LA. I sat behind her at the bar while she was doing dishes and cooking breakfast. She shared mixed feelings for a guy she was talking to over the last few weeks. Holly stopped, turned … Continue reading Relationship Skills


  • Celebrate our Independence

    USA Independence Day is a celebration of America’s separation from Britain. Typically it is a celebration of freedom. Os Guiness claims in his book Last Call for Liberty, Great Britain considered themselves free. In contrast with the other European nations they were. The United States were the free of the free. We took liberty to … Continue reading Celebrate our Independence


  • Secular and Sacred Pt. ii

    The separation of secular and sacred is rooted in Gnostic Dualism. The belief that the perfect state of man and woman is spiritual. There is a perfect design or blueprint of a person. The only way to reach perfection is to shed the physical state and become a perfect spirit.                This is not Biblical. … Continue reading Secular and Sacred Pt. ii


  • The Secular and Sacred

    There are two great lies the church hands out freely. We are to love ourselves first and there is a separation between secular and sacred. The first is more widely held and defended. When I politely suggest that loving yourself first is not scriptural it is Christians who respond viscously. Those who do not profess … Continue reading The Secular and Sacred


  • Justice: Healing Wrong v2

    I first published this post over a year ago. Given the current climate I believe it is good to republish with some edits. The common view of justice is one of punishment. Someone does wrong and they receive a ‘just reward’ for their wrong deeds. This is, at best, an incomplete and warped view of … Continue reading Justice: Healing Wrong v2


  • The Christian in Two Cities – Provide What You Cannot Keep

    The church must step up and provide what they ask the state to withhold.


  • Christians and Politics: Asking Questions?

    Where is the Christian’s hope in Politics?


  • The Church and Covid-19

                  California has recently reclosed religious services. Churches are left with the option of defying ‘government’ orders and potentially blamed for the spread of Covid-19 and associated deaths or following orders and ceasing to be the church as we have known it. The Christian, and the church at large must decide when to disobey government … Continue reading The Church and Covid-19


  • Average Joe

    “There is no room here [the Christian life] for such contemporary ideas as the looking-glass self, and no consideration here for trivial contemporary obsessions such as one’s legacy” Os Guiness – Fools Talk       Today I recount the story of the Christian called average Joe. He works as a routing and process engineer at a waste … Continue reading Average Joe


  • Friendship and The Lord of the Rings

                  I have been in 7 weddings as a groomsman or best man (I regret it not being 8 as I declined once to be a best man due to travel difficulties). The last three weddings I have been in I always give the same speech. Below is a piece of it.               In the … Continue reading Friendship and The Lord of the Rings


  • Compassion for Strangers

    I was on my way to work from a coffee shop for the sole reason that I enjoy talking to strangers. On the way I observed a young man in a very disheveled appearance having a fit; flailing his arms, talking and yelling to himself. He continues this for about fifteen feet, spins in three … Continue reading Compassion for Strangers


  • Forging Broken Crowns

    “I’m just a poor wayfaring stranger I’m traveling through this world of woe. Yet there’s no sickness, toil nor danger In that bright land to which I go.” This is my favorite song. It beautifully shows both the pain of living in this broken world, but focuses on the hope that we have as we … Continue reading Forging Broken Crowns